I've been where you are

The guide I wish someone handed me years ago.

Back when I didn’t know what a boundary really was.Back when I was stuck between guilt and silence, trying to keep the peace without losing my mind.Back when I thought I had to choose between protecting myself or staying connected to the people I love.This guide is what I wish I had then.We know you'll love this part. We didn’t just make it for you, we made it with you!You shared your stories, the tense family dinners, the “why does this always fall on me?” moments, the conversations you wish you could go back and redo.We sat with those stories, learned from them, and poured every bit of insight we've learned over the years into this guide, one that’s easy to read and full of scripts for those moments that used to knock me sideways, too.

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why we built this space

We weren’t trying to cut anyone off. We weren’t trying to start a war.
We just needed space.We didn’t feel seen or respected as parents.What was supposed to be a loving, supportive arrangement slowly turned into something else.One where we didn’t feel like we had a say in our own home.And the truth is, we didn’t know what a boundary really was.No one taught us how to set one. So we did the only thing we knew how to do...we pulled away.Because when you don’t have the words, stepping back feels like the only way to breathe.

the two-week pause that became a two-year estrangement

We asked for a bit of time. Two weeks.Just enough to reset, regroup, and figure out how to move forward.But silence has a way of stretching when no one knows how to reach across it.That short pause turned into two long and painful years apart.We missed holidays, birthdays, and ordinary weekends that should have made memories.We kept waiting for an apology. For something.And in that silence, we were forced to learn a lot about ourselves, boundaries, and the grief that builds when the repair doesn’t come.

The quiet decision that changed everything

Eventually, we stopped waiting.We made the decision to heal, even if the apology never came, because in our case, staying estranged was doing more damage than finding our way back.We didn’t pretend nothing happened.
We didn’t jump back in.We rebuilt carefully.
This time, with actual boundaries. Ones we could name. Ones we could hold.

Why we’re here now

We built this space because we don’t want other families to go through what we did, not if it can be prevented.We believe some estrangements are necessary, but some happen because no one has the tools, the words, or the support to speak up until it’s too late.We’re not here to preach or act like we’ve got it all figured out.We’re here to share what we learned, the messy way, so your story doesn’t have to follow the same twists and turns ours did.And even if it already has, maybe you’ll feel a little less alone here.

The Mind Your Boundaries Podcast

Every weekday, I sit down with your stories, the real ones.The ones that say, “My mom thinks I’m her therapist.” Or, “My in-laws won’t stop giving my kids gifts I’ve asked them not to.” Or even, “I don’t know if I can keep doing this.”I don’t promise magic answers. But I do promise honest, thoughtful responses, and scripts that feel like something you’d actually say.

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Have a situation you don’t know how to handle? You’re not alone.You can send us your story, anonymously, and we will do our best to help.Sometimes we reply directly, other times I feature your question on the podcast. Please consider what you add to your story to protect your anonymity.